What makes a male, what makes a female, where do we draw the line, and why does it matter? Sharon-Rose Khumalo, the beauty queen with male genetics who struggles with gender dysphoria, needs the guidance of somebody just like her. But the only person who will help is Dimakatso Sebidi, a male-presenting intersex activist who turns out to be her complete opposite. The two parallel but divergent stories are an intimate look at the struggle of living in a male-female world, when you are both or neither. "Who I Am Not" gives a voice to the long ignored and mostly silent two percent of the world's population: the intersex community.